We are all eggshells

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I love the “eggshell” rule which means you must take people as you find them and accept them as they are, not as you would have them be. 

It comes from tort law (technically called the “eggshell skull” or “eggshell plaintiff” doctrine). 

In the eggshell case, a man was hit on the head and died, because, it turned out he had “a skull as delicate as the shell of an egg.” Even though the person who hit the man didn’t intend to cause severe injury and couldn’t have foreseen the man’s fragility, he was held at fault. Moral of the story? – You can’t blame the victim.      

We don’t know who’s strong, who’s weak, who will break. We must take people as we find them. We must be careful, mindful of one another.  Doctors pledged in the original Hippocratic oath, Do No Harm. 

As a family lawyer, I have learned “take no prisoners” doesn’t work.  Revenge is a dish best served cold.  Which means wait, and then don’t.  There is no “win” in a family case.  She who has peace wins.  

Popular divorce culture tells us kindness is weak, and peace is for sissies.  Winners get even.  Having toiled in the wartime fields of divorce and seen the family carnage, the hurt children, the embittered spouses, the drained bank accounts, the college savings spent in battle, I preach a different message.  Make love not war.    graffiti wall decor

I know how to help.  

I know how to listen. 

I cut to the heart of the matter.

I know how the law applies and how to be practical.     

I know when to be a warrior and when to be a peacemaker.

I am an experienced trial lawyer and masterful negotiator.  I am here to help you get to higher ground.  

If you want to connect, I would love to hear from you.  

 

 

 

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